in praise of naked cuddles

I didn’t want to write again until I had something happy to say. I think starting this blog helped me articulate some of the things that have been getting me down for so long, but that I don’t have anyone to talk to about. People have left such encouraging comments on this blog; it amazes me that sex problems are something we never talk about in real life, but that people could encourage each other about if it weren’t so hard to talk about.

I was reading a marriage help book, and it talked about the way that intimacy is lost when you haven’t faced the big hurts, and then niggle over all the little hurts so much that you begin to despair of ever being close. It described what I was feeling so well. I felt trapped in big hurts which had led to a lot of small arguments and had eroded our closeness and made me despair of ever finding it again.

This last week we have spent a lot of time cuddling and talking. We even made love. I feel a tenuous but increasing bond with him. We have talked a lot, and I feel a lot more hopeful.

There is nothing like naked cuddling. You cannot cuddle your husband naked and he cannot cuddle you naked without feeling closer. It makes it easier to talk; it makes you mutually vulnerable – physically and emotionally.

So this is a post praising the joys of naked cuddling. It will work wonders for all that ails your marriage. You must just cuddle naked. Do not have sex (even if you haven’t had it for weeks.) Just cuddle naked. All you need is that you both enter the cuddle with a soft heart, or a heart willing to be softened.

~ by hardsex on June 15, 2007.